Most of us go through life without even stopping to think of what kind of life we would really like to create. We are born in a world that has pre-set definitions of success and what life should look like. Especially with our education system, we are not encouraged to think for ourselves. Information and instructions are literally shoved down our brains and any form of questioning is labelled as rebellion.
We also live in a fast-paced world where we are always in a rush trying to accomplish everything at once and keep up with all the information, changes and circumstances that life throws at us. We don’t stop for a minute to critically analyze what is going on and consciously act on it.
So how do we take charge of our lives?
The first step that you should take is critical examination of your life at the moment. Do you like what you see? Would you like to change it?? What is your hand in all of this??
We need to take 100% responsibility of our lives. We need to acknowledge the part we played in our current circumstances. Otherwise, we will start playing as victims, blaming everyone and everything else except us. Once we do this, our power is taken from us because it is someone else to blame.
Once you have acknowledged that you are 100% the one to blame for what is not working, you can consciously decide to change and create what you want.
Now that you know that you are the only person who determines what happens in your life, you need to find out what exactly it is you want in every area of your life.
Write it down.
Your goals should be original. They should not be based on what your family or other people’s expectations. They should inspire you to be the best version of yourself. They should be in harmony with your values.
Imagine your perfect life:
- What do I really want to be?
- What do I really want to do?
- What do I really want to have?
- What activities give me a sense of purpose?
- What do I want to change?
- What price do I have to pay to achieve the goals that are most important to me?
- What actions should I take immediately?
Writing down goals makes them stick.
Your goals need to be SMART
When we start with Specific, you need to have a 360 view in the following areas:
- Health & Fitness
- Personal Development
Telling someone we know about our goals also seems to increase the likelihood that we will stick at them. Find an accountability partner or an accountability group.
Your goals need to be Measurable. How will you be held accountable? Indicate the goal scores in each category.
Break your goal down.
Your goals also need to be Achievable. Do have the Vision and Mission of your life. Then break them down into one-year, three year, five-year, ten-year goal plans.
This helps you identify what areas need urgent attention and break them down in a way that you do not feel overwhelmed in achieving them.
You also need to give them time-lines in order to keep the momentum. Ticking your goals down as achieved gives you a sense of fulfilment and helps get rid of doubt as you celebrate your successes and realize that the journey isn’t as hard or impossible as you anticipated.
Action cures fear. Once you have prioritized your goals and determined what areas need urgent attention, you can then have an action plan.
What can you do today, right now in the fulfillment of your goals? Creating a sense of urgency helps you manage your time better. You will always be conscious of the fact as to whether you are wasting or investing time.
Procrastination will be your greatest enemy and you have to be conscious of your present moment in order to overcome it.
Do not get into the trap of living in the past or living in the future. You will make a mistake. If you have never made a mistake then you have never tried anything new. But always ask yourself, what lesson do I need to learn from this? Every challenge presents itself as an opportunity. It just depends on what mindset you have?
Celebrate the small wins. Don’t always be so focused on the future that you do not notice that your efforts are paying off. Every time you reach your goal and tick off your to-do list, feel the sense of achievement. Your emotions have a role to play in maintaining your motivation to keep going.
Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve!